Why I'm Archiving My Facebook Groups, Podcast Episode 69

Hello My Quilting Friends! This week I'm changing things up a bit and sharing an episode that's all about Facebook and my decision today to archive my groups and greatly minimize my time on this social media platform. Please understand that this does not mean I will stop making videos or podcasts - in fact I'm going to be greatly increasing the number of videos I share each week! 

Listen to this episode to learn more:

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Quick links to things mentioned in this podcast:

Leaf Peepers Quilt Along

Machine quilting design gallery

Machine Quilting Design Gallery

Free Motion Quilting Project

Free Motion Quilting Project

Hello My Quilting Friends Podcast

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What archiving a group means

Hello My Quilting Friends PodcastAs of today, my Machine Quilting Block Party and Leah Day Quilting Friends Facebook Groups will be archived. This means if you are a member you will be able to search the group and see older posts, but the group will be frozen in time and new posts will not be allowed.

Social Media Addiction

I'm targeting Facebook specifically because this platform more than any others has become really nasty. People are horrible to one another and the algorithm that makes Facebook work encourages that behavior. It's also very, very, VERY addictive and I don't think most people understand how or why.

I've been reading and watching videos on this for awhile, and I found the following video very helpful for understanding the addictive nature of these social media platforms:

Affiliate link: I highly recommend Cal Newport's book Deep Work. This book was very inspiring to me to dig in, put my phone on airplane mode and stop allowing notifications to distract me constantly while I was writing and quilting.

I honestly don't think I would have ever finished my book Explore Walking Foot Quilting if I hadn't listened to that audiobook last summer.

This isn't who I want to be or what I want to be doing

I realized more than a year ago that Facebook was driving my husband Josh a bit crazy. He'd become obsessed with keeping our groups clean - free of spammers, porn, crazy people, and bullies. It wasn't an easy job and stuff would still slip through and get posted in the middle of the night so the first thing every morning he'd check his phone to see if the groups were okay.

This began hurting my feelings because hey - don't I get a good morning at least? And was this really good for us or our business? I didn't think so and I was starting to worry that it was causing Josh a lot of stress and anxiety that he didn't need to feel.

Ultimately I've had to tap into WHO I want to be and WHAT I want to be doing most - I want to be quilting. I want to be teaching you how to make beautiful quilts. 

I don't need Facebook groups which require tons of time and effort every week to do that. I think maintaining these groups has been taking me away being the best quilting teacher I can be.

What I'm Teaching Now

Please, please understand that archiving these Facebook groups has nothing to do with my teaching online. With the time I'm saving from managing these groups, I'm going to be sharing even more videos every week!

Please come check out the tutorials shared almost daily starting next Monday, August 13th:

Monday - Leaf Peepers Quilt Along with Sheri - Learn how to piece and machine quilt a beautiful fall themed quilt in just 9 weeks!

Leaf Peepers Quilt Along

Tuesday - New free motion quilting design on a home machine. How about another set of 365? We're almost to design #500 so we're not that far off!

How to free motion quilt

Wednesday - Hello My Quilting Friends Podcast - I love sharing this podcast each week!

Thursday - More free motion quilting designs on a home machine or an embroidery or general quilting tutorial. There is always something new to explore and play with in quilting!

Friday - Frame Quilting Friday - I really want to dig into quilting on my Grace Qnique longarm. I'm still very much a beginner so we'll learn together as we quilt pretty quilts on the longarm!

I began the first video in this series with How to Load a Quilt on a Longarm Frame which you can find here.

So as you can see, I'm doubling down on what I love most and I hope you're excited to be learning along with me.

I'm also following my newest passion - writing - and have a new book coming out this fall. Mally the Maker is a book about a little girl and her adventures inside a quilt. I hope to inspire a new generation of kids to get into quilting and sewing and making beautiful things.

I believe we live in an incredible world. We can learn how to do anything with just a simple search. We are more connected to tools and materials than ever before.

But we're also inundated with addictive software on a daily basis. If you've been feeling bummed out, angry, and frustrated please take a second to check out much time you're spending on your phone, computer, or tablet. Consider every minute spent posting, commenting, liking, and scrolling.

Because all that time is not quilting.

Let's go quilt,

Leah Day

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  • Judy Medford - September 30, 2018

    Thank you being so honest and forthright about your decision to leave Fb. I, too, am reassessing my use. People and public events are making it uncomfortable and untenable in these times. Good for you and Josh for putting family first.

  • Leah Day - August 12, 2018

    Thank you ALL so much for your kindness and support! Really, it’s amazing to me that I worried for so long about this decision and have found only support and understanding for this choice. Thank you!

  • Ann Walsh - August 12, 2018
    Hi Leah, I found your podcast today because I wanted something to listen to while I was loading a quilt onto my long arm frame and I hadn’t listened to one of yours for a while. I keep forgetting that they come out regularly LOL anyway, I just wanted to say that even though you make very good points about Facebook and social media that I do agree with, the thing that struck me most about this podcast is how you are willing to be so real and honest with all of us in a public forum, where most people try to put on a public persona instead of just being themselves. Obviously some personal things are nobody else’s business :-) but you tying in your personal experiences with video game issues and the difficulties with social media make your message much more credible than if you were just speaking the same words that everyone else does on this topic. I appreciate your honesty and your authenticity, and I completely understand why you would make this change. You were right that the advice especially for small businesses is to be on all the social media platforms in order to be seen and to become known. And it can eat up so much of your time. Finding the balance is difficult. You need to do you as they say! We try these things and see how they work, and when they don’t we need to change them. I really appreciate that you are not only willing to share your talent and inspiration with all of us, but you also portray a genuine concern for our over all well-being as crafters, as women, as business people, and as human beings in general just plugging along and trying to find our best path :-) I look forward to seeing all your new ideas play out and I respect your decision :-)
  • Tina Summers - August 10, 2018

    I understand completely your decision to freeze the groups as I have had to leave some groups because of nastiness. It has staggered me just how cowardly people are in hiding behind a social media profile to denigrate others, grown women in quilting groups have verbally slaughtered others; the Quilt police have nothing on these women!!
    I have just attended the Festival of Quilts and felt so at home there again with all the like minded people who just want to create beautiful pieces and, more importantly, encourage others to grow and learn.
    Your teaching has inspired me to go for it in fmq and I thank you for all the effort you put into all your projects that help us learn and grow.
    I have my fabrics for leaf peepers and cannot wait!!
    Thank you both for everything you are doing in the quilting world x

  • Karen Salemi - August 10, 2018

    Thank you for your heartfelt explanation, Leah. While I’ll miss seeing the quilts on your site and interacting with other FMQers there, I can find other groups to join for that which won’t take away from your goals and joys. I’m so glad you’re going to continue your on-line teaching because that is what matters! I improved my FMQ tremendously by taking your classes on Craftsy. You are so generous with your time and the content you provide for free. I am truly grateful for all that you and Josh have done for quilters. Be well. Happy quilting!

  • Dawn Arlander - August 10, 2018

    Way to go!!!! It is so important to re-evaluate our lives every once in a while to weed out what is not healthy for us or our family!

  • Rita Catherine Vinatieri - August 10, 2018

    Good for you Leah. I am also part of some crochet groups on Facebook and the poor moderators are constantly talking about playing nice. Can you believe that grown women can be so nasty. It’s a shame. I love your quilts, what you do and who you are!!!!

  • Carol Russell - August 10, 2018

    You made the right decision. I hardly ever go on Facebook. I don’t really like it and I don’t have time. thank you for all the videos and things you do.

  • Carol Russell - August 10, 2018

    Good for you Josh and Leah-thank you for all you do. I hardly ever go on Facebook-I don’t really like it and I don’t have time for it. You made the right decision.

  • Susan Brubaker Knapp - August 10, 2018

    In February, I decided to spend less time on Facebook and other social media, too. I also felt I was paying too high a psychological/emotional toll by being there. Facebook has become a very ugly place to be, full of gossip and rumors and anger. I think most of us would be much better off if we dramatically limited our exposure to it, and spent more time doing productive things that made us happy and benefitted society.

  • Judith Dardis - August 10, 2018

    I applaud your decision. I shall be sad to lose the contact of other quilters, especially as I live in a place where there are no others to have such contact with, but your reasons are so good and so right. One of the main reasons I ever check FB is to see your site, so I can go there even less now – another good thing. I mainly keep it for keeping contact with far-away friends and family, but there are so many who just can’t keep away for all the wrong reasons. I look forward to more tutorials and podcasts and good stuff.

  • Seren - August 08, 2018

    Hi Leah,
    Let me say I admire your decision. I’ve been feeling similarly and have recently been pulling back from fb. And for much the same types of reasons – so much negativity and unbelievable nastiness, major drain on time and energy, judgemental attitudes, and the addictive nature of fb.
    I really like that you are able to connect with what is real for you and then come right out and express it. Good on you!
    Best wishes going forward.
    Seren

  • Lynne Cech - August 08, 2018

    Hi Leah, good on you, i understand where you are going and support you wholeheartedly. look after yourself and enjoy what you love to do.

  • Audie - August 08, 2018

    Thanks for being so open and honest! Family first. I love your videos. I will be watching and listening! God bless!

  • Danni Hart - August 08, 2018

    Agree with you totally! I’ve noticed that even bird pages [hummingbirds for example], people are judgemental, critical, etc. etc. Your description of a ‘cesspool of nastiness’ is right on. I’ll bookmark your pages. Purge your friends to only those you really know. I have friends with 2, 4, 600 ‘friends’ that I wonder about. I have less than 40 :) You do a good job, don’t be afraid, and your FB page is archived and will direct folks here. You and Josh take a break for a while and get reacquainted. I’m a grandma and you are at the beginning of your life and career. Look out for yourselves and keep your connection with each other. Thank you for all you have shared !

  • Beth Britt - August 08, 2018

    Congratulations…..I appreciate your honesty…..Facebook has lost my brother’s children. I rarely post. Thanks

  • Maggie - August 08, 2018

    Leah, you are a wise woman quitting Facebook and concentrating on your podcasts instead. I myself have slowed down reading my Facebook page as it’s such a waste of time. I also have been trying to convince my niece to stop playing video games. You are inspiring. Please keep up the good work you are doing as I hope one day to join one of you quilt-alongs. Right now I have too much on my plate.

  • Franni - August 08, 2018

    Thank you Leah and Josh. I’ve been signed up to your FB groups for a while, but I’ve not been participating much – sadly life got in the way of quilting this past year. It’s not possible to do everything yourselves when you’re running a family business, and we quite understand you deciding to ditch Facebook.I’ve not seen anything but kindness on your groups, but sadly I know that isn’t the case with all online crafting communities. Wishing you both well, and everyone who’s been sharing their quilting photos in the group.

  • Jo McDowell - August 08, 2018

    It sounds like you have made the right decision for you and your family. I agree that computers, social media, games, etc. can definitely be addictive and can suck up much of your life if you let them. I have seen others struggle with the administration of Facebook sites and it is a full time job
    I will continue to enjoy your podcasts here and your Youtube videos. Best of luck to you both.

  • Bonnie - August 08, 2018

    Thank you so much for your candid and heartfelt podcast. I wish you great success and have complete confidence in your ability to transition away from Facebook.

  • Susan Lentz - August 08, 2018

    Huge kudos! I commend both of you, the Day Team, for your decision. Great podcast…so much of what I’m feeling about the addictions of social media and games….and I’m a 69 year old woman, for gosh sakes. Thumbs up and thank you for all you talents and commitments.

  • Daniel Becker - August 08, 2018

    So sorry to see the FB pages closed. I really liked posting stuff here as I felt safe to post pictures of my work, as I always got a lot positive feedback. To be honest, I feel kind hurt to be losing this group, as this was one of my go to groups for posting. However, I understand why you are closing your FB groups and want to wish you guys all the best.

  • Dyan - August 08, 2018

    I understand. You and Josh offer such positivity at all Thank you!
    !

  • Mary - August 08, 2018

    Bravo!! Smart decision to leave FaceBook!

  • Cindy Gifford - August 08, 2018

    I applaud your decision to basically get back to your roots and passion of what and why you started all this in the first place. As our businesses grow and flourish its not difficult at all to get caught up in trying to do all the things on every platform and then trying to do everything to please everybody else that we get lost or both we and our businesses suffer. It’s all about balance and the most important root or foundation of yours is first and foremost you and Josh’s relationship being healthy in every way. I always marveled at how you seemed able to do it all from the first time I had the pleasure of finding you. It’s a unique and special gift and ability you share with us all so unselfishly that we are all probably guilty of not being thankful and appreciative enough of what you have offered and the privacy and time you have sacrificed. Thanks for all you have and still do and I wish you nothing but continued success.

  • Sandy - August 08, 2018

    I appreciate your podcast and your decision. I think all of us realize that social media, even less hostile places like Ravelry where i run fine groups, eat up our creative time. At best i sirens time reading interesting things—but not creating then. At worst i an trying to make viscous people play nicely. And even obsessively reading the news first thing in the morning leaves me feeling worse than if i had been creating. Thanks for reminding is that addictive behavior that increases our anxiety ACS makes us more sad can sneak in our lives before e know it

  • Laura Nicholls - August 08, 2018

    I for one am delighted you have made this decision, Facebook seems to be for little children, perverts and games. I totally know what you mean about addicted to it, I was addicted to one of their games a while ago now, Farmville, I spent a lot of money on their silly bits and was on it from first thing in the morning until late in the day. Thankfully now I only visit it when one of my neices/nephews tell me they have posted pictures or things. I never joined the quilting groups so felt I probably missed out a bit, now I don’t need to worry. I know it must have been quite a decision for you to make Leah, but I think you will not look back on it. Thank you for another very interesting podcast. Laura

  • Robyn Mackay - August 08, 2018

    Thank you Leah and Josh for letting us know. I think what your doing is great as I have witnessed how rude people can be. I know on a personal level about the video games and completely agree. Thank you so much for all that you do. I really want to join in on the quilt along. I’m having some personal problems with debilitating anxiety and panic. It ruins everything. I’m hoping it doesn’t interfere with this fun time your giving. Congratulations on all of your decisions. Robyn

  • Michelle Hughes - August 08, 2018

    I love your podcasts. I don’t blame you about Facebook. I love all what you and Josh are doing for this community. Your a great woman and I appreciate you and your family. Thank you for all your hard work.

  • Deborah - August 08, 2018

    Thank you so much! I heard your podcast about Facebook and so agree with you. Thanks for all you do for quilters. I first found you (unknowingly) way back with your video describing how to “customize” or “hack” a free motion quilting foot to make it operate more smoothly! And then later on I found you again while trying to learn free motion quilting! :)

  • Josh Day - August 08, 2018

    This was not a decision we came to lightly. We really hope you understand. Also, I am a recovered World of Warcraft addict and being on facebook constantly just for moderation was not healthy for me personally.

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